Internet Relationships2: People Go In The Wrong Directions
With a path so open and available, why don’t more people get on it and go where they want to go? It is probably because of a fork in the road. People are going to go in one of two directions it seems. Their wants or those of others. Many are so blinded by their own personal wants that they give very little thought to filling the needs of others.
Jill knows what she wants from her husband, however what he wants never fully gets throught to her.
The foreman knows he wants those lug bolts tightened as the body frame comes through the assembly line, but what does the one doing the tightening want?
The parent know the way they want their children to grow up, but do they really show as much consern for what the childeren want emotionally, that is?
The salesman has a strong desire to sell the stove but is almost afraid to ask about the prospect’s wants, for fear the product won’t fit.
Pete feels that Janes does not love him in the same way he wants to be loved. Mabe it’s because Pepe has been blind ot her wants and needs.
The teacher wants the dull, sleepy eyed teen to be more attentive, but what does the gawky young stalk of humanity really want? Has anyone thought about that?
And so it goes. Everyone wants something from someone else and becomes frustrated when it is not forthcoming.
Do you know what happens many times? They start applying an reverse version of the rule. They try punishing people and that’s just what people don’t want, in an effort to get what they want.
The air gets chilly when Jane doesn’t get what she wants from Pete. The foreman chews out the lug bolt tightener. The parents will scold, and spank and threaten when the childern don’t fit the mold. The sales person jabbers on desperately when it appears the prospect is lukewarm. “Maybe Jane will shape up if I make her a little jealous,” Pete reasons. The teacher threatens, shames and disciplines, in a futile attempt to shake off the teens laethargy.
And that is the story of the human in a highly individualized society. Divorces, splits in families, high job turnover, heavy hearts, wasted cares, crumbled dreams, lonely lives all haunted by ineffective efforts to relate to others. This was mentioned in the last article. Discover what people want. Then help them get it. That’s the way to reverse most of those distressing situations.
It’s another way of describing the rule.Or at least the first part of it, that: To the degree you give others what they want. They in turn will give you what you want.
Rick Shoop with IMO-Networker.com Internet Marketing Training. MLM lead system specialist. It’s a digital future why not utilize it? Basic Training in relationships in the real world applies to the internet as well.
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